If you’ve ever done it in a public space, like a taxicab lets say, or for you less daring types, in a public park or the movies, you know about that urge. Or what about – for you serious couples out there – doing it secretly while your parents/ boy (girl) friend’s parents are somewhere in house. Its some major holiday and you’re visiting for the weekend. You’ve been “sleeping in separate rooms” for the WHOLE weekend and its that Sunday night where you find yourself simply unable to restrain from sneaking down the hall and letting out all that built up tension. Yeah, you know about that urge. That Urge sucks the rationality straight from our brains and convinces us that there’s nothing more important for the moment than that passionate, enthralling sexual experience. And then again, it doesn’t even have to be passionate and enthralling. There are always those times when the act itself is disappointing and unsatisfying. Nonetheless, the potential for ecstasy, the mere thought of the touch, the feel of… no, not cotton, that urge… well it’s quite a force.
On the other hand, there’s love, which is quite a force itself (see previous post – title). There’re songs about it. When I type in “love” on my Itunes search space about 213 items come up. There’re movies about it. The notebook being a perfect example shows how even a war, a hot, rich ass fiance, a 3 karat diamond ring and an evil bitchy southern white woman who happens to be your mother can’t get in the way of true love. Everyone at one point in his or her lives is confronted with the force of love. Tupac wrote a song about it – so it must be real. He says its “that stuff that don’t wear off, it don’t fade. It last all these crazy days, all these crazy nights…” To The Tribe, it’s a force compelling enough to motivate all their actions as they say “we do it all for the love”. To Sara Barielles, it’s “the only thing she ever could need and the only one good thing worth trying to be”.
So what happens when one force is squared up against the other, who wins in the end? I asked my boyfriend in an attempt to gain some insight. His response was “babe, that’s such a vague question!” I thought he had a point. In theory, the conflict is a lot easier to arbitrate than in the context of a true-life situation. The obvious example then would be cheating. A boy is in love with A girl and said boy meets another girl – we’ll call her “strumpet.” Boy in love with said girl has a decision to make. Submit to the urge or exert/brandish the force. Another example, which I think is more appropriate for really evaluating this question involves a single boy and a friend who he is completely sexually uninvolved with. This boy one night is presented with the decision to stay with his friend after he/she has broken up with his//her significant or go get some from someone he does not love (it could be a quickie, jump-off, slide type of situation or it could be a stable friend with benefits). Either way, the distinction is – with one friend there is love; with the other there is only sex. What does he do? Which force is the strongest?
I didn’t see Star Wars, so in the end, I don’t know which one ends up on top (lol – I’m immature). In my psyche it remains an interesting but unanswered question. If in fact Love is the presiding force, why do people cheat on their loved ones? Is it safe to conclude that people who cheat were never in love to begin with? If sex is the presiding force, is there ever hoping that relationships will flourish long after sexual appeal has faded. Is there a such thing as loving your partner “for who she or he is” and such a concept as “happily in love forever after” or are those just examples of another gay and unrealistic fantasy painted by Walt Disney to skew children’s images of real life and make them forever wanting for more out of life? I’d like to hope that love wins and that one day, someone will show me the world on a magic carpet – but I’d be the first to admit that hope is an audacious one. For right now, I guess it can’t really hurt to appreciate the strength of them both and act accordingly.
Wrap it up!
- Mrs. Prodigious
On the other hand, there’s love, which is quite a force itself (see previous post – title). There’re songs about it. When I type in “love” on my Itunes search space about 213 items come up. There’re movies about it. The notebook being a perfect example shows how even a war, a hot, rich ass fiance, a 3 karat diamond ring and an evil bitchy southern white woman who happens to be your mother can’t get in the way of true love. Everyone at one point in his or her lives is confronted with the force of love. Tupac wrote a song about it – so it must be real. He says its “that stuff that don’t wear off, it don’t fade. It last all these crazy days, all these crazy nights…” To The Tribe, it’s a force compelling enough to motivate all their actions as they say “we do it all for the love”. To Sara Barielles, it’s “the only thing she ever could need and the only one good thing worth trying to be”.
So what happens when one force is squared up against the other, who wins in the end? I asked my boyfriend in an attempt to gain some insight. His response was “babe, that’s such a vague question!” I thought he had a point. In theory, the conflict is a lot easier to arbitrate than in the context of a true-life situation. The obvious example then would be cheating. A boy is in love with A girl and said boy meets another girl – we’ll call her “strumpet.” Boy in love with said girl has a decision to make. Submit to the urge or exert/brandish the force. Another example, which I think is more appropriate for really evaluating this question involves a single boy and a friend who he is completely sexually uninvolved with. This boy one night is presented with the decision to stay with his friend after he/she has broken up with his//her significant or go get some from someone he does not love (it could be a quickie, jump-off, slide type of situation or it could be a stable friend with benefits). Either way, the distinction is – with one friend there is love; with the other there is only sex. What does he do? Which force is the strongest?
I didn’t see Star Wars, so in the end, I don’t know which one ends up on top (lol – I’m immature). In my psyche it remains an interesting but unanswered question. If in fact Love is the presiding force, why do people cheat on their loved ones? Is it safe to conclude that people who cheat were never in love to begin with? If sex is the presiding force, is there ever hoping that relationships will flourish long after sexual appeal has faded. Is there a such thing as loving your partner “for who she or he is” and such a concept as “happily in love forever after” or are those just examples of another gay and unrealistic fantasy painted by Walt Disney to skew children’s images of real life and make them forever wanting for more out of life? I’d like to hope that love wins and that one day, someone will show me the world on a magic carpet – but I’d be the first to admit that hope is an audacious one. For right now, I guess it can’t really hurt to appreciate the strength of them both and act accordingly.
Wrap it up!
- Mrs. Prodigious
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